As
promised, here finally are my firsts I did for Lent. Starred ones were planned.
I kept track on a Post-It note calendar so I could move them around as needed.
W 1 Write a veteran.* It was Raymond Odom at Arbor Rose
Assisted Living in Farmerville who was in the newspaper. February is
International Correspondence Writing Month (I should have searched for
"incowrimo"), which means that I need to write 28 letters. Also wrote
a letter to the nice Gateway manager who later called me to thank me. STAMPS.
T 2 Left someone random flowers.* $.
F 3 Got first real estate listing. FREE.
S 4 Went to Christian concert. It was loud and not what
I expected at all. FREE.
S 5 Quilted.* FREE.
M 6 Made cake from scratch with fresh strawberries. FREE. HAD INGREDIENTS ANYWAY.
T 7 Played in the rain.* FREE.
W 8 Paid it forward at Starbucks. (Tenbucks). $10.
T 9 Listened to a different radio station.* Liberal
one. They cussed a lot. FREE.
F 10 Escaped from my car window to practice after
seeing it on the TODAY Show. FREE.
S 11 Decorated a cake.* I learned later that a ketchup
squeeze bottle can be a free tool and told my friend who taught me. A little
knowledge is dangerous. FREE. NEEDED CAKE ANYWAY.
S 12 Drank a Red Bull.* Got criticized for it being
unhealthy. FREE. HUSBAND HAD ONE IN FRIDGE.
M 13 Put money in a meter, book I gave away and pocket
of clothing donated.* $. Someone who heard me speak said, "I should have found it."
T 14 Rode city bus.* $1.20. Have a Greyhound story.
W 15 Wrote POTUS.* STAMP.
T 16 Did Twitter detox.* FREE.
F 17 Sent money for cleft palate and dogs for the
blind.* $.
SS 18 19 Self-defense class and babysat my godson. Same
day, but counting as separate. FREE.
M 20 Looked at Craig's List. Someone was actually
trying to sell her house on there. No one prequalified. FREE.
T 21 Why stop with POTUS? Sent the Pope an Easter card. The embassy wrote back! STAMP.
W 22 Practiced Mano Sinistra.* In the words of NC State
great Charles Shackelford: "I can go to my left or right, I am
amphibious." Someone posted that this can help prevent Alzheimer's. Also helps when you are scared of turbulence. President James Garfield could write Latin and Greek. He could write one with his left hand and the other with his right at the same time. FREE.
T 23 Made beauty scorecard of nature.* Noted beauty and
inspiring things. Smiles. Sun. Laughter. FREE.
F 24 Got massage.* It hurt. $50.
S 25 Wore expensive necklace on a regular day and used
the china.* FREE.
S 26 Walked with a cane for a day and used no mirror
after I fixed my hair.* FREE.
M 27 Hygge. Hygge is a Danish term defined as a quality
of coziness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of
contentment or well-being. It is pronounced hoo-guh and is associated with
relaxation, indulgence and gratitude. These type of people lift their hats to
each other and look at a stranger with an expression that indicates they wish
they knew him well. The Year of Living Danishly means taking pleasure in the
presence of gentle, soothing things, like coffee and cashmere socks. It's candles, nubby woolens, shearling
slippers, woven textiles, pastries, sheepskin rugs, lattes with foam hearts and
a warm fireplace. It's a flannel blanket with tea, mulled wine. A songbook to
affirm ideas of simplicity, cheerfulness, reciprocity, community and belonging.
Kith and kin. FREE.
T 28 Made my own logo.* FREE.
W 29 Walked my dog backwards around the block.*
Received some scolding that I could have gotten hurt. FREE.
T 30 Looked at the clouds from the ground.* FREE.
F 31 Escape Room!* $25.
S 32 Ate full meal with chopsticks, suggested from a
man on the bus. "You are admired for your adventurous ways" was my
fortune. Bus guy also suggested going to the library, playing bingo, doing
karaoke, feeding the homeless. FREE.
S 33 Had a Backwards Day.* Stayed in PJs all day, then
took shower at night and ate the corresponding meals backward. FREE.
M 34 Wrote Near Death Experience of my aunt. I never
knew someone who had one personally. FREE.
T 35 Did creative photography rather than pictures of
people.* FREE.
W 36 Wore white shoes before Easter. This got a lot of
comments about hoping the fashion police were on a break. FREE.
T 37 I made note of sensory encounters. My friend Kay
came home from months of rehab in NOLA. A miracle. I noted flags flying, the
smell of bacon, catfish and roses, hearing something on the radio that made me
howl and touching my bathed dog. Enjoyed feeling the breeze. This leaves taste.
Just glad I have an appetite and food. Nothing special eaten today. Can I count
Strawn's pie from last night? Also observed National Caramel Popcorn Day. FREE.
F 38 Went to George's for the first time since my
father died in 2005. It was our place. FREE. HAD TO EAT ANYWAY.
S 39 Viewed our birdhouse that had a nest for the first
time. FREE.
S 40 Made a cross out of my palm. FREE.
M 41 David had a good one. Don't do anything after
work. Don't go anywhere. Etc. FREE.
T 42 Drift Away Float Center!* $50.
W 43 Counting oxygen bar today done yesterday. FREE.
T 44 Had a Purple Cow. FREE. HAD INGREDIENTS.
F 45 Lots of firsts not on purpose today. First Subway
drive-through. First time without phone that didn't work for hours. FREE. HAD TO EAT ANYWAY.
S 46 Covered clock while sleeping. FREE.
EASTER
Did not get
to do:
Yell timber. Husband wouldn't let me. But later did
after a bad day at work.
Someone asked: Have you ever worn a hair covering in
church as ladies did years ago? If not,
it could be a first. I have.
Escape from my trunk or binding as seen on TODAY Show.
Convertible trunks are too small, even for me.
Have a game afternoon on a Sunday. "My childhood
may be over, but that doesn't mean playtime is." Ron Olson
Make soap.
National Pillow Fight Day and other observances. Note:
Use National Day Calendar site.
Watch TED Talk on chemistry or tai chi or philosophy. "We need
to start work with the idea that we're going to learn every day. I learn, even
at my position, every single day." Chanda Kochhcar
There is a
hug drought. Juan Mann did a free hug
campaign. I will not play at tug o’ war.
I’d rather
play at hug o’ war,
Where
everyone hugs
Instead of
tugs,
Where
everyone giggles
And rolls on
the rug,
Where
everyone kisses,
And everyone
grins,
And everyone
cuddles,
And everyone
wins.
Learn Four score and seven years ago, memorize phone
numbers, etc. Use Gale at www.bossierlibrary.org under research tab for six-week classes or Launch Pad.
Go hunting.
Go on an AC call.
Smile all day.
Make button bracelet, crosses, other things on
Pinterest.
Observe National POW Day.
Watch Housewives of NYC on Bravo. Or one of them. There would be a different emotional meltdown every show. Ugh.
Trampoline Park.
Embroider.
Gator Park.
Morse Code. Military Alphabet. Pi.
Don't whine. No negativity. No gossip. No complaining.
No criticizing.
Geocache with LaBetha.
Leave a sticky note with an empowering message on a mirror in a restroom.
Shoot a stun gun.
Perfume swap.
Carry goldfish in Barkus parade.
Ideas I got at speech: feed a chicken, do Groupon daily, take pottery class at Noel, read a different book genre.
Second speech: Use a wheelchair. Have Bossier Council on Aging give me a senior proxy. Play the drums there.
Woodworking class.
Learn a good joke.
Meet a band member. Read Pulitzer book.
Write a commencement speech. This is part of one by Justice John Roberts:
Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to
time so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again,
from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life
and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the
failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you
will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat
over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of
sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening
to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.
Others say you should be yourself. You should try to become
something better.
Once a week, you should write a note to someone. Not an
email. A note on a piece of paper. It will take you exactly 10 minutes. By the
end of the school year, you will have sent notes to 40 people. Forty people
will feel a little more special because you did, and they will think you are
very special because of what you did.
Bob Dylan wrote these words for his son, Jesse.
May God bless you and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung
And may you stay forever young
May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
And may you stay forever young
May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
May your song always be sung
And may you stay forever young
Take a nap.
Flip through the TV channels.
Don't use a straw. There is a growing number of restaurants and bars that have united around eradicating the billions of straws discarded every year into landfill. Plastics can’t biodegrade, they last indefinitely – breaking down into smaller pieces, littering our landscapes and oceans, feeding into the food chain and potentially ending up on our dinner plates. Straw Wars.
After reading I
Dare Me where the author did something new every day for a year, I tried
something new for 40 days for Lent (and longer) along with my regular Lenten
sacrifice. I'll be able to say BEEN THERE DONE THAT, GOT THE T-SHIRT, WASHED
THE CAR WITH IT. And instead of I NEVER…IT'S HAVE YOU EVER?
I don't normally give something up for Lent, well, my cell phone once a long time ago. I do something. I got this book for $2 on bookbub and it changed my life.
In another excellent book, On Fire, the author said our enthusiasm saps out sometimes and
boredom seeps in. What people are really saying is they have too many things to
choose from and they're lazy.
What have I not been awake for in my life, asked
Jennifer Grey during a show I was watching.
I remember seeing monuments in Washington, D.C. for the
first time and jumping out of the cab seat. I pointed at every landmark. I felt
excited. Awake. Alive. Awesome. Firsts are always memorable. But we later go
through the motions, barely noticing what is in front of us. We're sleepwalking
and the great adventure of life can mellow. So, my idea is to no longer be an
observer, but participate. My father always said you can march in the parade or
watch it.
Angelina Jolie says, "If you don't get out of the
box you've been raised in, you won't understand how much bigger the world
is." I didn't know a poorer side of Shreveport existed until I had a
college photojournalism assignment to shoot it. Firsts we remember are: bike
ride, school, kiss, dance, driving, heartbreak, job and plane ride. We remember
the first winner of Survivor or Celebrity Apprentice or the Bachelorette. Second place is first
loser. A penny always loses its shine and the honeymoon always ends.
How many times have you tried to coax someone to go
somewhere with you and they don't want to, do and have fun? You never know
until you go.
The author went to a theater alone. I used to do this
all the time until the Lafayette incident. And parades and an LSU game. Your
own company IS good enough. You are enough. It's better to be alone than in the wrong company. Everybody is going to have critics.
"Relax and enjoy," the
author said. "Small things can bring freshness.” I’ve eaten and traveled
alone. To North Dakota, South Dakota, West Virginia, Oregon and Alaska to complete my goal of the
50 states. The world is too beautiful to stay in one place.
Do things you are not a maven of…she said she is now
not an opera virgin anymore. People say: I can't, I'm too old, I will look
stupid. So what? I have learned not to care what people think of me anymore to
a certain extent.
As she met people since she was a reporter, she got
story tips on recycling programs, on-campus drinking, a restaurant with a bad
report. Passing info on to people is
cool. One friend said my list was gold.
Ben Franklin knew life was a classroom. He invented and
created libraries, fire departments, insurance, books, musical instruments and
newspapers.
Experiences are like bizarre exclamation points in your
life. Those who put on lab coats become much more attentive and studious, the
author said.
She survived a large intestine removal at 33, breast
cancer at 35 and kidney cancer at 45. Her daughter thought of the first idea
and it helped her get up every day.
I love books where people do something for a year--wear
a nametag, be biblical, give up something, write a daily thank you, find a new
friend, photograph a tree. I have such book ideas myself.
I am blessed to have such firsts as riding in a KC-10,
spending the day riding around with a governor, learning how to suture, being a
Macy’s parade balloon holder, reigning as Mardi Gras queen, being on the LSU
football field during a game several times, finishing the bible, riding a sweet
potato picker, speaking at a national conference, milking a cow and piglet,
driving a train, completing the Polar Bear Dip, writing a book, ghost hunting,
attending a national football championship with LSU in it, reading movie lines,
clowning, meeting celebrities, driving a $120,000 car, making a mosaic,
learning to make wreaths, painting the eye of the Tiger, being in an apple
eating and crawfish eating contest, yoga, skiing both snow and water, running a
5K to prove to a boyfriend, cycling around Cypress Lake--same guy, staying up
all night twice, watching a 1,000-year-old Indian canoe get excavated, standing
on the stage of Ryman Auditorium, doing every job when I managed the Remington
Suite Hotel--even housekeeping, and visiting another religious denomination.
I'm going to be a Yes Woman. "Say yes. And you'll
figure it out afterwards," said Tina Fey. (Although I'm conflicted because
learning to say no is important, too).
Please offer suggestions for next time. The author ate
a scorpion (I'm counting someone else in the family for something similar). I
won’t do that or bungee jump, ride in a hot air balloon, or scuba or anything in water, so don’t get too
excited. I know Peter tried something new when he walked on water, but... Lili Price, who had a leaking brain aneurysm got scolded from her doctor when he heard she went sky diving. But she said, "Aren't we all ticking time bombs with programmed destination points?" Instead of going with the flow, I am the flow, she said. She taps her deepest longings. If your dreams don't scare you, they are not big enough. The Illness can become WEllness with others.
Quote that captured my attention. Sebastian from NCIS
NOLA on his first day on the job, he got
a little excited, couldn't sleep, so came in at 5 a.m. to get a head start on
things and unpack his stuff. I'm so nervous, you know? Like, “first day at
school and you don't know anyone” kind of nervous, but that's strange, right?
'Cause I, I know everyone here. Never easy taking a new job. Especially on an
experienced team. He was told he was there for a reason, would do great and got
his service weapon. Then the phone goes off. Four dead bodies... Including a
sailor. "Yes! All right. Man, that's insensitive. I 'm sorry. Just first
case as an agent, you know?"
More quotes stand out to me: Because I cannot do
everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. Edward Hale.
When life hands you lemons, don't make lemonade. Make orange juice because
being different is good. Andrea Finical
Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live? Caroline Myss
I believe every human has a finite number of heartbeats. I
don't intend to waste any of mine. -Neil Armstrong
Only 3% of the population writes down their goals. The rest
of society works for these people. – Brian Tracy
How do you become interesting? According to
Jonathan Goldsmith, take chances, don't give up, make courageous choices, say
thirsty for adventure.
During my Lenten days, I read a story of kids of a
deceased man finding his pouch with rings and trinkets and three pieces of
folded notebook paper: "Things I Would Like To Do in My Lifetime!"
written at 29, the year his daughter was born, covering both sides of the page.
Be interviewed on the radio. Make money in the stock market. Set up a
charitable fund. Drive a Corvette. Teach a class about wine. Make a rubber band
ball. Pan for gold. The kids realized
they already did some of what he wanted to. Get my picture in a national
magazine. The writer daughter did. There were 13 they did, but he only did
five. Give my children the most love, the best education and best example I can
give. Wasn't checked, but should have been.
Some of the
author's examples can be found at www.Luanncahn.com:
Don’t swear for a day.
Eat vegetarian. Or a foreign food.
Cartwheel.
Mechanical bull.
Spoke to a stranger.
Smoked a cigar.
Shoveled horse manure.
Ate dessert first.
No coffee, no gum.
I came, I saw, I drummed.
Secret Santa.
Hike up Runyon Canyon in the hills of L.A. Go up to the
top to see a prayer box created by designer Jeannie Mai. The idea is you put a
prayer or a thought into the box, then you take a prayer out of the box.
She said she would sing if someone bid enough on
something.
Joined Damsels in Success group. (Tell Ann Marie).
He had me at
hello, she said, on one she really wanted to do.
May the firsts
be with you is how she ends the book.
The speech was meant to be. Driving back from Waco I heard Darius Rucker's song that said When was the last time you did something for the first time? Let yourself go. Follow that feeling. Let your hair down. Feel alive. Followed by Brad Paisley's Last Time for Everything, mentioning no longer getting woken up at 5 a.m. for Santa.
Who wants to do unimportant and
uninteresting things? Upon hearing this talk, one of my Facebook friends sent this: I pray God quickens creative ideas in you to help you prosper, live wisely and share his love.
Holly and Paul in Breakfast at Tiffany's agree to spend the day doing things that each has never done before. They go the library and steal something.
Still is a book where she took a photograph a day of found nature. Love everyday doings. Crabs, wildflowers, sumac leaves, pine cones.
The Bossier Council on Aging listeners said they wanted to be a pilot, travel, stop cussing and ride her bike. I could have some purposely not doing items, too.
St. Faustina gave up sleeping with a pillow.