Wednesday, December 8, 2021

 

Silence Can Be Disturbing 

At one 2021 funeral we were told to touch base with the grieving in the days after everyone goes his own way. When the silence really hits. It may seem like your loved one’s light went out, but God’s light is still there as in beginning. He doesn’t desert us and hopefully your friends won’t either. Know that sun rides over grief.

Mark Hall, Casting Crowns singer, said his mother wasn’t ready for the quiet after her parents died. He wrote Scars in Heaven for her. “I know you’re in a place where your wounds have been erased and knowing yours are healed is healing mine” are part of the lyrics. While we’re struggling down here, your loved one is not. They had a promotion to glory. Romans 8:18 reveals that sufferings of this time are not worthy to be compared with what future glory shall be revealed in us.

Something I read on Facebook said the deceased teach us lessons, lend a hand and try to make us smile. A tingle down your spine is an example. So is a beautiful memory while driving.

Another friend’s Facebook said, “I wish heaven had a phone. Thought of you yesterday and today. I think of you in silence and speak your name.” Again, silence seems to be the word speaking to me in this 17th annual column.

It may be helpful to find meaning in your silence. When David Kessler was 13, he witnessed a mass shooting at the hotel he was staying in across the street from where his mother was dying. In 2016, his 21-year-old son died suddenly. We have the false idea that our work is to make grief smaller. Our work is to become bigger and grow around the grief, he said. The meaning of the death is in us and what we do afterwards. Be more generous, determined and kind.

The Mothers Against Drunk Driving founder may never understand why her daughter died, but she has saved lives. Loss is what happens in life. Meaningful connections may replace painful memories. Meaning is what we make happen after loss.

A Guideposts story mentioned only one thing was missing at Christmas, but it was all that mattered. Their loved one. But everyday events can have an impact, too, a special song, dish you use or old card you run across. These cause triggers and catch you off guard.  Recognize grieving can last a lifetime, but should not consume a life. No one can rob you of what you had with your loved one. Death is not a cruel separation. We are away from home, not they. Death is a preparation for eternal union. David’s child was dead and would not return to him, but he knew instead he would go to him. 2Samuel 12:23

When a parent dies too young, a child grows up too soon was a line on 60 Minutes. One of the Cartiers said he looked forward to working with his father, but instead was transporting his coffin. Your father may have saved for a retirement he never got to enjoy. Your mother is alone. You mourn the past, present and future. Use this line. “Bless in peace those who sleep in death.”

Trying to bright-side death or find silver linings is very difficult. Over time, what you are feeling diminishes. The pain tearing out of your body. Tinges of sadness. Feeling like everyone on the outside is looking in like you are in a tunnel. Falling apart or like you are a shell of yourself. That nothing is fixed. Being grounded to a halt. Feeling out of balance. Seeing people talking to you but not hearing the speaking. You may not comprehend it all. The silver lining is to think of golden things, said a co-worker.

Someone told a friend whose heart was broken, “I will lend you mine until yours has mended.”

You are not the last leaf on the tree. You are not in an empty hole. You are not left like a piece of luggage on the conveyor belt, going round and round. A grief support group can help you.

On New Amsterdam, a doctor gives her niece some filing to do. The deceased were “inactive files.” The wording struck her. Grief is the reminder that love was present, and that even if it’s no longer in its original form, that love still exists, said Michelle Maroc. Don’t let death define your life. It’s OK to grieve and keep going. It allows you to open yourself up to the next dream.

“But what is grief if not love persevering?” was heard on another TV show. Authors Greg and Lauren Manning found some meaning and purpose in which to dedicate themselves after she was severely burned on 9/11.

Another burn victim who wrote a book, John O’Leary, remembers heartbreak and grief as a hospital chaplain. Frequency doesn’t make it easier, he said. Regardless of age or circumstance, the loss of a loved one is always shocking, O’Leary said. Few of us ponder honestly the profound fragility and beauty of life at any age. Several thousand years ago the author of Psalms reminded us: “Teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” The goal of life isn’t to number the days to keep score, but in order to live them passionately, faithfully, intentionally and lovingly. This attention reminds O’Leary daily what matters and what doesn’t. It informs what he says yes and no to. Counting your days will make you live more intentionally. Today, choose to number your days. Rejoice in what you have and those gathered around you. And in the midst of the anxiety, difficulty and unknowns of this day, remain confident that this day remains a gift and even better days are yet to come. This is your day. Live inspired.

A heart can be devastated, but it doesn’t mean an amazing city cannot be built around it. I heard the story of the Church of St. Nicholas, a Gothic Revival cathedral in Hamburg, Germany. The bombing of Hamburg in World War II destroyed the bulk of the church. The removal of the rubble left only its crypt and tall-spired tower, largely hollow save for a large set of bells. These ruins continue to serve as a memorial and an important architectural landmark.

Some ways to do help you:

We need the rituals that have lacked with COVID and no funerals. A funeral is a marking of a life. Perhaps using some of these on a Zoom would be soothing.

www.thedinnerparty.org is a buddy system with a grief peer. Carsonsvillage.org also has excellent resources.

Mail your anonymous grief secret. It gives you time and space to reflect. There are no rules. The address is What's Your Grief, 3600 Roland Ave., Baltimore, MD 21211, or submit@whatsyourgrief.com or via direct message to @griefsecret on Instagram.

Create a night sky of star coordinates with the moment of death.

Cling to a child’s pillow with his scent.

Convert ashes to diamonds with companies such as Enterneva.    

Go to nature. Rocks, shrubs, trees, flowers, seashells. Parks, gardens and cemeteries can be beautiful and quiet places to contemplate. Picnic, read, bird watch, see the sun rise. There are positive impacts for looking at landscapes, whether from a window or screen. It helps us feel better, think better and heal faster. Cover your wall with paintings. Smells of candles we burn can have nature around us. Grief is a wilderness, said Dr. Alan Wolfelt. When we bring in the wilds of our grief into the wilderness of our natural world, we come to know we are not alone. Feed the spirit and renew with nature. Nature is grief hospitality. It teaches destruction and rebirth. It’s steady and calming. I personally wish I could be in Muir Woods.

Don’t beat yourself up with: I could have done more. I thought we’d have more time together. It’s too soon. He was healthy and vibrant. She wasn’t ready to go. It’s not fair. Tend to your grief with thoughtful words of people who have been in your shoes. 

One death stops everybody’s world. Some deaths stop THE WORLD. Legacy.com, the world’s largest online obituary source, said Rosa Parks has gotten the most responses. Some said they will now vote because of her and many students do research on her. She exhibited bravery and sacrifice and lived with intent. It doesn’t matter if the relationship is one way for someone to admire someone who has passed away. You are not alone.

Wednesday, December 1, 2021

 

Crime Con 2019 in New Orleans Recap

Dateline

The Dateline reporters are some of the best storytellers in the business and part of our zeitgeist.

Josh Mankiewicz said the families are harder to be around than the murderers. He said he is astonished that people use murder as a solution over divorce. He asked someone why once and he replied, “I probably should have thought about that.”

Dennis Murphy doesn’t leave notes in his lap to ease interviews with the families. Mankiewicz says he tells interviewees they can start over again if need be.

Murphy said sometimes he wishes he could start with “the husband did it” and then tell the story.

#OrDidHe?

Mankiewicz joked that his brother said his first words were, “Mama, Dada, did you kill your wife for the insurance money?”

Sometimes a piece can be put together in 12 hours, Murphy said, and sometimes it takes 12 years, such as updating new developments in a case. Keith Morrison said he often stays in touch with the families featured on the show.

A case each would like to cover is Lizzie Borden for Murphy. “It reads exactly like a Dateline.” And the John F. Kennedy assassination for Mankiewicz. He covered the House assassination hearings. Morrison hasn’t thought much about it but chose Jack the Ripper.

A cold case Mankiewicz would like to cover is the West Mesa murders.

He said he was terrified of the Thomas and Jackie Hawks murder where they were bound and gagged and thrown overboard, tied to her yacht’s anchor. The yacht returned; they did not.

Murphy thought of a story from Walla Walla, Wash., with a man who had multiple personalities. He said he didn’t do it because one of his other personalities was at the wheel.

#DontWatchAlone

Liz Cole, executive producer, said the competition is tough for stories. “We keep our eye on the ball and do the best we can.” Her team is called the Smart Olympics.

Mankiewicz said one of the reasons fans like Dateline so much is because of the people you don’t see on the air. “All oars pull in the same direction.”

Cole said there is not much turnover, but she looks for employees who are resourceful, dogged, meticulous and who have an incredible attention to detail. Producers make sure the stories are clear, fair, accurate and bring the victims to life. The stories must have mystery, suspense and a twist.

Tidbits from the panel include that the FBI doesn’t test for gunshot residue any more. Drones and the M-Vac are becoming more important. The latter can get DNA out of porous surfaces.

#ButAllThingsArePossible

You can save yourself from being on Dateline by avoiding the following terms on bingo cards that were handed out. Words include burner phone, receipt for kill items, love triangle, affair, custody battle, money problems, life insurance, Google search, potty mouth, defense wounds, DNA, shells, missing murder weapon, poison, ignored red flags, abandoned car, hoarder house, hard drive or phone erased, tower pings, double life, hit man, staged robbery, acting weird at a hospital or funeral, bad side of town, splatter, no body, bottom of the stairs/tub, tats, piercings, no other man in town?, unsettling eyebrows, mullet/man bun, haunting facial hair, nosy neighbor, small town gossip, secret recording, lie detector and search party.

Also, prison glass, no one saw it coming, full of poop, smirks, hot cop, talking to yourself, family in denial, lawyers up, Keith’s Converse, Keith leans in, Manky’s hanky, Lester the Vester, airtight alibi, pillar of the community, loved life, childhood friend, TMI and 911.

I'm getting out my cards tonight.

Christopher Darden

Christopher Darden still thinks about Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman as June 12 marks the 25th anniversary of their murders. He said this is a profoundly sad time of year.

“Twenty-five years is a long time to be dead,” Darden said. “I don’t feel any better about it today than I did 25 years ago. It never leaves you. Her head was attached to her body by a string.”

He said he knew the case so well as if he felt like he was there when it happened.

Darden rolled through names of O.J. Simpson’s defense lawyers he was up against in the trial. “Say what you want to say, Johnnie Cochran was a brilliant lawyer,” adding that he learned from him.

Robert Kardashian left a legacy—“big booties,” Darden said.

Darden said F. Lee Bailey watches everything he does. “We used to call him The Flea,” Darden said. “He’s bitter. I don’t think he could practice law in a kindergarten class.” Darden said Bailey basically called him Marcia Clark’s slave. “We lose Johnnie and Kardashian and this man keeps on kicking,” Darden said.

He said Bob Shapiro is making money on LegalZoom and Alan Dershowitz “in his heart of hearts, he’s in love with me.”

Darden said there is no justice when everybody has a financial interest in the outcome of a case. He flashed a slide of the book Madam Foreman: A Rush to Judgment. “It was a 10-month trial,” Darden said. “That’s a slow, deliberate walk.” He said Fred and Kim Goldman are the only people who should have gotten to write a book, although he did. “My book sold more copies than yours,” he told Cochran, adding that he would smile if he was here.

It was always assumed Shapiro was trying to be first author on the case because he was always typing on a laptop. “(Judge) Ito is the only one who didn’t write a book although when I see him, I encourage him to,” Darden said.

He wishes he had never had Simpson try on the gloves. “I can’t walk it back.” He had seen Simpson wearing Bruno Magli shoes that left a print at the crime scene on the sidelines of NFL games.

Darden said it was hard to win a trial when the lead detective, Mark Fuhrman, who was known to have used racist language, took the Fifth regarding planting or manufacturing evidence.

Race is an issue in every case, Darden said. “I became an object of race hatred,” he said, being accused of being an apologist for Fuhrman. “If you are prosecutor in this room today, thinking about a high-profile case, you better think about race.”

He said he believes black lives matter. “It doesn’t mean white and brown don’t.”

Darden said he has learned that anybody is capable of killing anybody else if they feel properly motivated. Even if they are someone like Simpson who had a Heisman Trophy, was in the Pro Football Hall of Fame and had a family. He showed a slide of Simpson as a football player next to a regular picture of him. “I wonder what advice young O.J. would give to old O.J.”

Darden has also learned that the truth will eventually find its way to the light.

I also met Tom Lange, lead homicide detective.

Nancy Grace

Nancy Grace has dedicated her career to victim advocacy, giving a voice to those who can’t speak for themselves. In a new show, she will be re-examining cases that she feels just didn’t get it right—from the wrongly accused, to botched investigations, to unclear motives, to unjust sentences. In the premiere episode, they will cover the murder of Pamela Vitale, a beloved wife and mother found dead after a brutal attack, her body desecrated. Grace was very close to both the victim and her husband, having been with them both just hours before the murder.

When her own boyfriend was killed, Grace said she couldn’t eat or stand to see a clock on the wall. She mourned him from 1999 to 2007 and could not let go. She snapped out of it because she wanted her twins to have a normal mother. She knew he would not have wanted her to mourn. Her husband, David, has stuck with her, even through “Dancing With The Stars,” she said. He didn’t seem to have much personality whenever she pointed him out.

“Let me just say it. O.J. did it,” Grace said, after wrapping up the murdered boyfriend discussion.

She called the recent Casey Anthony show a mockumentary.

Someone asked about Missy Bevers, the unsolved case in Midlothian, Texas, that haunts me. She said the killer is not a man. This is the case where the killer is on camera dressed up in SWAT clothes. Grace said sex is involved as a motive. As are anger, cheating and resentment. No one stood to benefit financially and it was not a robbery, she said, adding that something turned bad.

Another participant asked, “Do you think the owl did it?” That was a prior presentation from a North Carolina case that used that as a defense. Grace said the victim’s husband once had a girlfriend in Germany who ended up at the foot of the stairs. He took custody of her children and brought them here.

Grace affirmed working hard. She doesn’t want to be pristine and hermetically sealed, but cut and bruised and exhausted at the end of her life, saying she used it all. She does not want to just slide into heaven.

Grace said her 87-year-old mother lives with her.

Cannibal Cop

Gil Valle said his meet and greet at Crime Con was scheduled at 1:30 p.m. so organizers made sure he was fed at lunch and wouldn’t be hungry.

He is known as the Cannibal Cop after his wife found evidence of his fetish chatroom and his looking up human recipes for possible kidnapping victims. He denied using a New York Police Department database to collect addresses and said he had no giant oven or chloroform.

Valle had been an honor student in high school and his parents did no wrong in raising him though they divorced when he was 5, he said. He does recall seeing a TV show with women being tied up when he was 13 or 14.

“People are aroused by certain things,” he said. “Fantasies run the gamut,” he added, mentioning dendrophilia and being tortured to death.

Valle did not testify in his trial for conspiracy to kidnap and said the jury based its decision on what he might do in the future. He said he never missed work during his fantasies.

The judge overturned the verdict 16 months later and Valle wrote a book named “Raw Deal.”

The New York Post knew within three hours that he joined match.com and did such headlines as Hungry for Love. “I’d rather they laugh at me than be afraid of me,” he said.

There is not a pill he can take to help him, but he said therapy has. “I still look at porn, but don’t engage in chats or role playing.”

He now has a job at a construction company. He has not seen his daughter.

Black Dahlia

Don’t believe any account that this famous case has been solved, said Anne Redding, who has studied Elizabeth Short, the Black Dahlia, for 30 years. She is a professor and department chair of Justice Studies at Santa Barbara City College and a police academy instructor.

The facts are that Short was in a pinwheel of being alone, homeless, poor and trusting in 1947 when her body was found in a park in Los Angeles, Redding said. It looked like a mannequin. The psychological autopsy for Short is that of loss and separation and difficulty in being affectionate, she added.

The facts also include that she was bisected and posed and emptied of blood. Her mouth was sliced. A piece of her thigh, where she had a rose tattoo, was in her vagina, her pubic hair was rolled into her rectum and she was bathed with a bristled brush. The bisection enabled better concealment and transport, Redding said.

As a child, Short suffered from asthma and toggled between Boston to family friends in Florida in the winter months at 16. Her father abandoned the family and was the first owner of a mini golf course. He moved to California and Short relocated there years later. She often worked as a waitress.

Customers in a drug store came up with her moniker, which originated from a movie called “Blue Dahlia.”

She had a fiancée, who she called darling, who was killed in World War II and she carried his obituary in what was called her belongings package, which also held her birth certificate.

Redding called this a lust murder, or piquerism. Sometimes the dragon wins, Redding said.

Owl Theory

Attorney Larry Pollard, next door neighbor to Michael Peterson, said he is practicing the Golden Rule as he presents the Owl Theory.

Peterson’s wife, Kathleen, was found at the bottom of the staircase after they were out by the pool. But he believes there was a colossal rush to judgment on Peterson’s guilt. As a sportsman and deer hunter, Pollard says he has a “smoking feather” instead of a blow poke which law enforcement believed the husband used.

She had 38 hairs in her left hand and 25 strands in the right, perhaps after grabbing her head after an owl attacked, Pollard said. He said owls always strike from behind and “attack the color white for some reason.” It ignites their hunting instinct.

He said red neurons indicated Kathleen was in shock and fainted, but had no cracked skull or brain damage. He said she had Flexeril, Valium and alcohol in her system.

Serial Killers

John White, a former police officer and now psychologist, said he can’t understand how serial killers treat people the way they do, but much of it dates back to childhood. And Danny Rolling, who murdered the Grissom family in Southern Hills, was one of them. He was beaten by his father and had a suspected head injury. He shot his father. He set up camp outside universities. He sang about his murders and left a tape there. He posed and washed victims. He put victim Christa's decapitated head on a shelf. 

How many of you are wearing something from your husband? Were you with him when he bought it? See the receipt! There could be a speck of blood on the necklace. Forty-seven percent of serial killers take trophies. Twelve percent take hair or body parts. Sixteen percent of serial killers want a sex slave.

White talked about one case where the killer had an IQ of 152. He hated women so they had to be dead for him to have intercourse with them. Some criminals will just want to watch people die by spraying cyanide to see what it will do.

There are cult types such as Richard Ramiriz who extracted eyes from people because there is a poem about eating eyes to know the soul. A woman married him while he was in prison. You think men are strange?

Robin Gecht of Chicago used piano wire to sever breasts and eat them.

John Robinson, “Slavemaster,” was in the International Council of Masters, a secret cult. He was married with five children and killed eight. He met women online and lured them to his house. His wife sought a divorce after 41 years.

Scorecard Killer Randy Kraft killed 16 men, mostly teens. He had a head injury as child, suffering chronic headaches. He emasculated the victims, stuck a sock in their anus and used a cigarette lighter on their nipples.   

Keith Jesperson, 35, (1990-95) is the Happy Face Killer. He was a truck driver who murdered prostitutes. He urinated on an electric fence at age 6. He was made to pay rent. He almost drowned at 8. He got erections from hearing Vietnam war stories. He played the “Death Game” with a victim. A hitchhiker was with him during a bad storm. She wanted to keep moving; he wanted to rest. He raped and strangled then resuscitated her five times before taking a nap beside her lifeless body. He strapped her to the underside of his semi. He wrote happy faces on walls in restrooms and in letters.

David Parker Ray, "Toy-Box," had a soundproof truck with gynecological tables and objects for sexual torture. He played tapes of the incidents for the naked victims to watch. No bodies were found. His daughter was an accomplice.

Lonnie Franklin stuffed shirts in mouths of victims and raped them and took pictures.

Gary Ridgway, the Green River Killer, was 33. He generally killed others around his age and some on his father’s business route. He chose prostitutes because his mother was abusive to his father and he walked away from her. Ridgway considered his mother a whore.

Bobby Joe Long used dog collars. He watched his parents being tied up in robbery once.

Robert Yates buried victims outside of his bedroom window after he shot them. He was a helicopter pilot and said to be a good worker.

Gerard Schaefer, went to graves of the victims for 30 days.

Last few tidbits: The National Law Enforcement Museum in Washington, D.C., shows visitors the critical thinking and forensic science skills law enforcement uses to analyze clues. Visitors can immerse in 911 Emergency Ops or the training simulator for stressful decision making situations. I promised to mention this in writings because they gave me a challenge coin.

Tidbits and paraphernalia I picked up: Talk Murder to Me sticker and an Only You Can Prevent Serial Killers pin. I loved the hidden PSST! Cards that said "nice sleuthing. You caught me." If you found one, you put it on social media to try to win a prize. #JusticeforDJ bracelets were distributed. This was the perfect venue to alert attendees of unsolved crimes.

I want to know Who Killed Sister Cathy? The murder of Catherine Cesnik is featured in "Keepers" on Netflix.

Dr. Henry Lee and CeCe Moore

Forensic scientist Dr. Henry Lee has worked for 58 years. He wanted to be a basketball star (he is only 5 feet, 8 inches tall), but was a police captain in Taiwan. He lost his dad at 7 and was one of 13 children. He taught kung fu and has waited tables.

He looks at evidence and lets the chips fall, not trying to prove guilt or innocence. He has investigated 300 police shooting cases. Jon Benet Ramsey’s family got mad at him. Other cases were Kobe Bryant, Chandra Levy, King Tut, Pocahontas, who was 16 years old on a peace mission and never got back.

He has investigated JFK and the magic bullet and Vince Foster, whose thumb was in the trigger, but most suicides are not done like that.

He said you can bring the lab to the scene nowadays.

CeCe Moore, genetic genealogist, made 56 successful IDs in the first year she used public database GEDmatch to identify a distant relative and work backwards through their family tree to narrow suspects in crimes.

Alina Burroughs on Crime Scenes

Alina Burroughs said the Casey Anthony case made her famous. She was cleaning brains and skulls as a crime scene investigator and worked that case, which changed her life. 

The jury seemed to be falling asleep, she said. She wished she could have brought the trunk liner in the courtroom with the smell of a corpse or any odor technology or air samples.

She said those on the stand owe jurors a way to convey factual information in a way they understand. The average juror has a high school education, she said. Fifty-eight percent want to see evidence, 42 percent want DNA evidence and 56 percent want fingerprint evidence.

She spoke of Disaster Mortuaries. DMorts. It’s an operational response team.

Burroughs also explained that crime scene investigators used to have measuring wheels and can now do scales virtually. Blueprints are old school. A 3-D laser scanner creates models of crime scenes accurate within a millimeter. A blood splatter analysis can be done in four minutes now.

Columbine—Is there a manual now for mass shootings?

Crystal Miller, a Columbine survivor, said district officials are considering a proposal to tear down and rebuild the school. A new school would keep its name, mascot and colors. The school principal is the glue of the community, Miller said. She said some try to sneak in out of morbid curiosity. She is on the fence, but more for razing the building than not. She shared her faith on this Sunday session. Faith says that I don't have the capacity, but I know someone who does, she said. She wished she could have avoided the incident, but it taught her how to live. She has a platform to bring hope to people. She wondered if she would die quickly or suffer slowly. She wanted and needed sleep, but knew closing her eyes would relive the scene. She wanted comfort, but touch would make her recoil. She chose forgiveness within a month. Because it made her angry and bitter and hating life not to and "that is not who I am." She said she is no better and has failed herself. Miller said it wasn't easy and she had to forgive over and over again until she really lived out of the place of forgiveness. She asked: Are you a buffalo or cow?  Cows turn and take flight from storms, but the storm catches up. Buffalo see it and prepare to fight. They charge into the eye, willing to go right through it.

Lagniappe:

They have a Crime Con podcast row. That is where I learned about Who Killed Sister Cathy? I watched the show on Netflix.

You can be an HQ member to be able to do Zooms. They have been held about once a week. I listened to one with Jackee Taylor of Montana earlier this year. Her father was in the Witness Protection Program in Shreveport. I ended up writing a story on her for Forum and she came to speak to Downtown Rotary.

They have Crime Con cruises. I first heard about Crime Con too late when it was held in Nashville in 2018. I believe the first one was in Indianapolis in 2017. The one in 2020 in Orlando got canceled due to COVID, I believe. I knew I wasn’t going to go, so not sure.

There are many books for sale and a Crime Con store. I have some “Basically A Detective” stuff.

These is also an annual JFK Assassination Conference.

 

 

Crime Con 2021 in Austin Recap

Was it foul play, abduction or a nature take?

Six years ago on July 10, DeOrr Kunz Jr., 2, was camping in Idaho with his parents, Jessica Mitchell and Vernal Kunz, and great-grandfather Bob Walton and his friend where there was no cell reception. An unpaved seven-mile road takes you to the remote location.

DeOrr’s not been seen since. Even outhouses were pumped and drained on Day 3.

This was my favorite Crime Con session and it was conducted by reporter Nate Eaton. I have since listened to Nate interview Sheriff Steve Penner on Zoom. He discussed the divers in the reservoir, 70-person foot searches, helicopter surveillance, use of horses and all-terrain vehicles to no avail.

Penner said most children that age are found within four-tenths of a mile from where they are lost.

DeOrr was either abducted, which would have been difficult, or lost or taken by a wild animal. Or could one of the four with him have done something to him? His blanket, cup and his monkey were at the site. But was he ever there?

There are bears, wolves, mountain lions and eagles there, but his over-sized boots were never found had he been scooped up into trees. They would have fallen off, it was stated. They did search trees, too. One small bone has been analyzed at Quantico, but nothing definitive has been discovered. Cadaver dogs have scoped out the site. A suspicious man was seen buying diapers in Walmart. But he was not the guy.

DeOrr was the same age as Nate’s child at the time. There have been only one or two days in six years that Nate says he hasn’t thought about this case.

Jessica has married and grandpa has died. His friend, Issac Reinwand, has cooperated, though oddly answering the door naked when Nate arrived one time. Grandpa Bob and Issac met in Alcoholics Anonymous. The camping trip was said to be spontaneous, a place grandpa liked, and he asked Issac to come at the last minute.

Three private investigators have worked the case. Frank Vilt, retired U.S. marshal, used his personal funds. The parents declined offering a cash reward and many media opportunities—Good Morning America and Nancy Grace. They have failed lie detector tests, even on a question about what they had for breakfast. Their home was searched and the grandfather and Issac say DeOrr was at the campsite, but the parents thought he was with grandpa and grandpa thought he was with the parents when they went to look at minnows.

The grandmother had an auction to hire Philip Klein of Texas. David Marshburn had a dog that found a bone, but it was an animal. A diaper was said to be tied to a tree.

Jessica had two previous children who lived with their father. She has never retained counsel. The ex doesn’t point a finger at her, but does believe something is not right.

Issac did get a lawyer. He is not a sexual offender, but does have a sealed juvenile record, likely related to something he must have done in school. He had a butcher knife in the yard and twirled a bullet case when Nate interviewed him, but is not believed to be a serious suspect and he passed the lie detector test.

Vernal is a truck driver.

It was dark upon arrival and the parents and DeOrr slept in their vehicle and the two older men slept outside. The couple drove to a store the next morning to get snacks and feminine protection, produced a receipt, but no one there recalls seeing the son. There are some gaps in the timeline.

Searches for DeOrr continue. Penner said a hunter who was missing since 1975 was found in 2007.

I suspect maternal foul play, but could DeOrr be the next Elizabeth Smart?

Zooms with Nate after Crime Con:

These parents had different stories, sequential lies and opposite timelines. They failed five lie detector tests. After a lengthy FBI interrogation, they went straight to a sex store for a Clone-A-Willy, investigator Philip Klein said. They actually made two trips to the store, not one. If you were seeking feminine hygiene products, why didn’t you get them on the first trip? There are receipts and interviews there. The first trip was for Monster drinks and Swedish fish. The second trip was 17 minutes later. Grandpa kept saying what’s done is done; she can have another baby. He urinated on himself when being questioned. Following through on Vernal saying DeOrr sat in someone’s truck and honked the horn was tracked down to be a lie. DeOrr was not in Vernal’s truck’s car seat. Vernal was not 1.5 miles down the road when he proferred to call 911. No fishing rods or tackle box were found at the site. Sounds fishier each time I hear about it. I am obsessed with this case. Klein has spent $150,000 of his own money and $100,000 on legal fees when sued by the family for infliction of emotional stress, libel and slander. His team searched for 18 to 20 days. They did field time distance studies. Klein believes DeOrr was run over and put in a cooler.

Trina is the daughter of great-grandpa. She said her father had prostate cancer and needed oxygen. Jessica was his caregiver. She was on a new job when the incident happened. I think she is hiding something.  I asked if DeOrr was thrown in the campfire, but was told it would take very long for a body to burn.

The Charley Project

The Charley Project is the second largest missing persons database online. The largest is NamUs, run by the government. God forbid you ever need it.

More than 14,000 cases have been profiled, both active and resolved. It is updated several times a week. It was created in 2004 by a woman who was 19 and in college at the time. She said that she had autism and is emotionally detached and named her work for Charley Ross who was kidnapped in 1876 in Germantown, Penn.

A person must be missing a year to be added. Ninety percent of missing persons cases are resolved in a year, she said.

The oldest case is from 1910--Dorothy Arnold. Thirteen are from Shreveport and four from Bossier.

The Charley Project is a resource for police, journalists, podcasters, armchair sleuths and true crime aficionados.

One of the worst of the missing is Peter Kema who was abused and fed dog feces, she said.

An interesting solve was Troy Darren Grumbine who disappeared from Irving, Texas in 2004. The night after he disappeared, he was accidentally struck by a vehicle and killed on Interstate 10 in Arizona. Grumbine wasn't identified until August 2014. For years, all his parents knew was that his car was found empty 19 miles west of Deming, N.M. Police found it with the engine still running, one of the doors open, with Grumbine’s wallet inside and a still-warm container of chicken from KFC in the passenger seat.

Police surmised that he hitchhiked into Arizona. They ruled out foul play.

The case was solved by Henrike Hoeren, a German woman living and working in Ireland, whose hobby is using the Internet to research missing person cases.

What caught her attention was that Grumbine had possibly been wearing a gold chain and a cross. Hoeren also learned an unidentified man wearing a gold chain and a cross was struck and killed by a car along Interstate 10 near San Simon, Ariz., the same night Troy Grumbine’s car was found in New Mexico.

Both were described as big men, standing more than six feet tall. Hoeren also was able to view a photo of the man killed in Arizona 10 years ago and thought it looked like Grumbine. Included with the photo of the then-unidentified Arizona man was another photo of something he’d been wearing — a gold chain with a cross.

DNA resolved the case with exhumation.

Meaghan Good said donations are accepted for her project on a voluntary basis.

Kim Goldman

America has heard a lot of “Say her/his name” lately.

Twenty-seven years ago, Kim Goldman went through her murdered brother’s name not being said because the media focused on Nicole Brown Simpson. Goldman heard news on the car radio mentioning Simpson’s name and “her friend.” Ron Goldman was treated as collateral damage, she said.

She began with telephone answering machine messages left for her brother when the word got out that he was killed. She said she thought that was a good introduction a few weeks ago, but was met by tears listening to them on stage. She “tortures herself” because people show up to hear her speak.

Goldman was a student in college “living in sin” when the murders happened. When she came home, her boyfriend was white in the face and she could see his pulse. He kept telling her to call her father, but she wanted to freshen up because she thought he might be about to propose because of his nervous demeanor.

When Goldman’s father called to tell her about her brother, she thought he must have died in a car crash. She said she had a pit in her stomach and that she did not know who O.J. Simpson was.

Her mother left the family when she was three and a half and Ron was 6 and her father had sole custody. She called them “three peas in a pod.” They eventually moved from Chicago to California and Ron was excited--sunning, getting buffed up and wearing puka shells, which she called a horrible style.

Regarding the trial, she said the Kardashians were not there every day, but Bruce Jenner was there “when he was Bruce Jenner.” The family had to endure autopsy evidence. They could not wear pins with Ron’s face so chose angels instead. Prosecutors Marcia Clark and Christopher Darden could not wear them. She described the trial as a circus and her book is called “Media Circus: A Look at Private Tragedy in the Public Eye.”  The Goldmans were in a fishbowl. They were described as gold diggers during the civil trial against Simpson.

She has interviewed jurors for her podcast. One thinks Simpson is guilty now. She said the jury indicated being sequestered was tiring and that they “wasted time” before coming up with the not guilty verdict so as not to be ridiculed. She believes jury duty should be an honor and that the system is faulty because it is easy for some people to get out of it, but has no suggestions to make it better. Goldman is angry because “the SOB is on Twitter and got away with killing my brother.”

She takes a vested interest in victim advocacy and is co-chair of the National Center of Victims of Crime.

She wonders what kind of uncle Ron would be and how he could help when their dad, Fred, gets older. Her father calls her son Ron, but she doesn’t want to correct him. Fred and his wife live in Arizona and work in real estate.

Goldman said they are no different than other crime victims, they just happen to have “an A-hole as a defendant.” She also called Simpson a disgusting piece of sh--. She said it is hard to forgive someone who has not asked for it.

Goldman said it was Doris Tate, mother of murdered Sharon Tate, who helped get the Victims’ Bill of Rights, which allowed for victim impact statements, passed in California in 1982.

She said when enough victims’ families band together, “we kind of kick ass.”

She also mentioned Marsy's Law, the California Victims' Bill of Rights Act of 2008, enacted by voters. It is an amendment to the state's constitution and certain penal code sections. The act protects and expands the legal rights of victims of crime to include 17 rights in the judicial process, including the right to legal standing, protection from the defendant, notification of all court proceedings and restitution, as well as granting parole boards far greater powers to deny inmates parole.

Goldman does grief work and said David Kessler said grief needs to be witnessed. She said she has gone to mediums and Ron has come through and she believes he is proud of her.

She said she doesn’t really keep in touch with the Brown family anymore, but Darden is a friend. “Pay attention to your district attorney and judges,” she said.

She said the week of June 12 is horrible, but she speaks of the murder to remind people of the loss. She said there is no closure.  She said the shower is one place of torture for her, but says she might as well cry there since she is already wet.

Goldman said love overpowers trolls. She said she feels both full and empty and empowered and defeated. She still wears Ron’s ring and necklace.

Lying

Mark McClish

My husband said he was going to the store for three things (milk, bread and creamer) and comes back with $80 worth of items. I should have known he was “lying” because the night before I watched a Crime Con session by Mark McClish on how to know if someone is telling the truth. He is a retired marshal who teaches interview training.

Three is “the liar’s number.” If someone says three men, 3 p.m., $300, beware. He is not sure why, but it could go back to nursery rhymes as to why that number stands out for liars. The Three Bears. The Three Little Pigs, Three Blind Mice. Three Wishes. Or birth, life, death; body, mind, spirit.

The presentation is better than my reporting of it, but McClish said Anthony Weiner said he Tweeted “no more than three” nasty photos.

Other tips: When the suspect says we/they. No “I” is a lack of commitment. Another act of untruthfulness is swearing on a grave or the Bible. Also, saying “to tell the truth” or “honestly” or “frankly.”

Passing of time is another. Going from Point A to C with no B. Words such as after, later on or the next thing I knew should cause pause. These words seem to make it “less of a lie.” Less for the suspect to keep track of.

Order also plays a part. If they say on and off or more downs than ups (O.J. Simpson) said this about his relationship with Nicole Brown Simpson), light up.

Does the subject answer the specific question? Ding. Ding. Ding. Al Gore when asked about marijuana avoided the question with a long, stupid answer that McClish played.

Answering with a question. “Did I take the money? No” means it’s sensitive and they are stalling. Miss America contestants do this. Jen Psaki does this.

Signs of deception were seen in the famous Dr. Jeffrey MacDonald case. He said there were THREE “people” instead of intruders in his home. He said WE were struggling. He said he told the “asshole” operator he needed MPs, then a doctor, then an ambulance—wrong order. He said some “people” have been stabbed. It was his wife and two children! He called the intruders people, too.

Other key words to look for are “tried,” “most of the time” and “can be” instead of “will.”

I’m going to start putting these lessons into play with politicians and while watching “Dateline.” I immediately think of analyzing the JonBenet Ramsey ransom note, but McClish has already done it for me on his website. He believes the parents know who did it and it was an accident.

Think about this: Two frogs are on a log and one decided to jump off. How many are on the log? What is your answer? This was really how he began. Words are tricky.

Traci Brown

Traci Brown is a deception detection expert and is trained in body language. She specializes in lie, fraud and identity theft detection skills in billion dollar business deals, crimes and politics. Now I know more tools to tell whose pants are on fire. “Time” named her one of the nation’s top experts on the subject of body language.

When President Clinton said he did not have sexual relations with that woman, she could tell he was lying because he was nodding while saying no. She showed clips from Lance Armstrong, Tom Brady, Prince Harry, Sarah Palin (yes it pains me) and the Bachelor. Defocusing eyes means something is being constricted. There is a difference between convince and convey. Truthful people say the minimum. You go on Oprah to admit and on Dr. Phil to talk. Armstrong admitted on Oprah. Burke Ramsey talked with Dr. Phil. She said everything heavily points to John Ramsey killing his daughter, JonBenet. Burke smiled during the interview, but she pointed out that could be because his mother was a beauty queen and taught him to do so. A big smile before a humiliating question is called Duper’s Delight. Tonya Harding and Tom Brady did it. A closed mouth with no wrinkles around the eyes can be a fake smile. It is done when trying to please and shows submissiveness. It’s called the Pan Am smile. Stewardesses would do anything to make you happy.

If Burke seemed a little messed up, you might be too if your sister was killed and the media hounded and your family was in every magazine. Burke admitted that he heard something but it wasn’t a police interview so Dr. Phil went no further, but Brown does not believe he committed the murder.

Taking out contractions is deception. John Ramsey said I did not kill my daughter instead of didn’t. In 77 percent of murders of children in homes, it’s the parents. Ninety-five percent of sexual abuse is by men. One shoulder shrug is deception. Pauses longer than five seconds are, as are softer voices. At any rate, I’m using my sensory acuity to detect liars. Types of lies are fabrication, omission, deceptive denial, minimization, exaggeration and the new one: alternative facts.

Women are the best liars and best detectors. Naturally curious and have more to lie about. You look great today.

Ask no questions and you’ll hear no lies. --James Joyce, Ulysses

Session Two: When people flash their palms, they’re telling the truth. People hide their hands when they’re hiding the truth like hands in pockets.  When people’s lips disappear, the next thing out of their mouth will be a half-truth. People will cover their mouths when they are holding back. If they scratch it’s because they are anxious and the blood rushes to their face in case they need to run as in fight or flight. If they cover their face or eyes or close their eyes, it’s because they don’t want to see the truth. If they look up, they are making a picture of it in their mind before the words come out. If they look level right, they may be remembering how something sounded. When people look down and to your right they are often going through the criteria needed for the answer. They will answer with facts, figures and what makes sense. When they look to your left, they are constructing and fabricating. When someone defocuses their eyes, they are going into their brain space of constructing the image of what they’re saying instead of remembering it. If someone is confident and shifts to cracking knuckles, tapping fingers or toes, coughing, swallowing hard, clearing their throat, rocking, wiggling, crossing their legs, hair twirling, sitting on their feet, hand wringing, humming, whistling, it’s a big hot spot.  If the answer is lengthy, it’s a hot spot. If they challenge you with that’s a dumb question, repeat, start their answer with I knew you’d ask that, well, you’re not going to believe this. Anything other than no is a yes. Did you hit your brother? I didn’t hurt him. Maybe it is a hot spot.

Austin Serial Bomber

This case created 19 days of terror in 2018. Detective David Fugitt said 680 federal agents investigated the bombings. The first was a package on a recessed porch and the second was a 17 year old taking it inside. Both of them died. The screws in the bombs came from a garage door company, not standard issue. The third was that same day and it was purposely put on a porch with the address of a neighbor so the lady would walk it across the street and possibly destroy the block. She survived.

Police checked residents’ devices to see if they picked up an IP address of the suspect on routers when driving by. They managed to see if any of the residents had been Googled.  All owners of a Ring in a geocached area had videos studied.

The fourth incident was a tripwire by a park that got two cyclers. It was attached to a sign that said Drive Like Your Kids Live Here. The next was on a Fed Ex conveyor belt, one of the two other headed toward the airport. It was stopped in time. Law enforcement talked to the Fed Ex site where the suspect shipped from and it was noted that the sender had on a blonde wig and parked down the street. The employee noted that as strange, even though Austin is known to be weird. They got video of the suspect and his vehicle and license plate that way. The Drive Like Your Kids sign was sold at one store and only six had been sold in 90 days and his was bought with cash, not credit, the law found out.

They had helicopter surveillance over the suspect in the middle of the night and SWAT would not let him get on the interstate. He blew himself up in his car when they veered him off the road. You should see the SWAT people coming out of those vans. There was no rhyme or reason why he chose the victims nor a real motive. His parents were just as scared about the bombings as everybody else. One good thing was package thefts were at an all-time low during these days.

There was evidence he was planning the crimes since 2015. He had 20 cell phones to use for bombing. Shortly before the detective went on stage, he said there was a bomb scare in the baggage claim area at Austin-Bergstrom International Airport. Of all his homicide investigations, serial bomber was the only one using that type of weapon.

Kerri Rawson

Kerri Rawson is the daughter of the BTK killer who murdered 10 innocent people. She discussed how she suffers from anxiety and PTSD.

She said she had a normal childhood. Dad Dennis Rader was not a loner; he had a family.

Rawson has two degrees, but thought she was going insane and got trauma therapy. Cops and badges can still set her off. Her husband can’t keep black leather gloves as they would set her off.

She focused on being a mom and going to church in 2014. Her daughter asked why she didn’t have two grandpas.

Rawson said it is therapy to talk about the case. “If you help one person, you’ve won,” a criminologist told her.

This was her first Crime Con and she never expected to be embraced by such a community. She calls herself the big mouth in the family. Her mother read her book and said she couldn’t put it down even though she knew what was going to happen. She said her brothers turned out fine. Her mom said not to be a victim and refused to let him win.  She divorced Rader and has no communication with him. He’s offered no real apology.

An oddity: Law enforcement got a warrant to match her DNA from a Pap smear to help catch her father.

I just learned of one of the victim's son's impact statement at the trial. He said he was confronting a walking cesspool, a pervert masquerading as a human being. He said the victims were BTK's family, too.

Denise and Aaron Quinn

The couple who appeared on “20/20” the Friday night of Crime Con have a bizarre story. He was in post residency rehabilitation and she was a physical therapist. Denise was taken from his house in the middle of the night. His ex-fiancé had lived there and all three worked at the same hospital. The ex was cheating on him with a police officer and her ex-husband had family money. Someone in the FBI used to date her, too. Aaron’s brother was a special agent in the FBI.

The voice used in the invasion was pre-recorded and had instructions with wind chime music in the background. It’s a saga that law enforcement believed to be like “Gone Girl” with Aaron a person of interest. Then there was Denise’s “proof of alive” and she was released from a trunk on her parents’ street. They spent $140,000 on attorneys to clear Aaron. Some of the attorneys were at their wedding when they eventually married. They have a child and just released a book.

Aaron was in the interrogation room a very long time and he said there is a new Illinois law that says children cannot be lied to there. It was said only 28 states record such interviews.

Five Names in Alexandria

Betty Lafon Johnson Malone Flynn Sills Gentry Neumar died in Alexandria prior to her trial. This woman married five times, all were military, and all died. Her son, Gary, also died.  She was arrested for arranging the murder of her fourth husband. But some investigations continue. She married Flynn right after her divorce from Malone. Malone was shot years later in Ohio. “That’s called a clue,” said the Crime Con speaker. Flynn was shot on a pier in New York. Sills died from an alleged self-inflicted gunshot wound in their Florida home. Gentry was said to be a nice man who never missed a day of work. Betty would come back and forth to him from Florida. He was shot by someone Betty hired for insurance money. Neumar’s death could be arsenic related. His son did not know of the death until it was in the newspaper. Betty said he was cremated even though he had bought a burial plot.

Delphi

Abby and Libby, the two girls in Delphi, Ind., were murdered in broad daylight but managed to get some blurry video and the voice of the perpetrator. Their relatives spoke at Crime Con. The town has only 3,000, so half are male, but the case has not been solved since Valentine’s Day 2017. At a news conference, it was said he could be in the room. The family looks at people in cars next to them and friends on Facebook. They look at Dairy Queen customers, at sporting events, restaurants and the gas station. The girls would have graduated this year. Libby’s family had her cap and gown at the cemetery. They do things on vacation Libby would like to do. What can you do to help? Keep spreading the word because when you do, it makes his world smaller.

Colonial Parkway

Eight families were impacted by murders near the Colonial Parkway in Virginia from 1986-1989, an area that is inundated with military training facilities. Half of their parents have now passed away since the case is so old. All were white, two people in a car, isolated like on a Lovers Lane, not killed inside the car and the car was moved and on a weekend or holiday. All of their wallets were on the dashboard, so these were not thefts. One man spoke of his sister and her girlfriend. They were the first victims. She was in the second class where the Naval Academy let females in and was a lesbian. They could have been followed. They were not supposed to spend the weekend together so went here to celebrate. It was very violent, almost overkill for lack of a better word. Theories are the killer could be someone posing as a law enforcement officer. They may or may not be related. The third couple was never found. The fourth was found six weeks later, but weren’t really a romantic couple. I personally don’t think the same person did each and every one of these.

I later heard the podcasters. They said 90 percent of the FBI's money is now spent on anti-terrorism. There are 230,000 cold cases in the U.S. They get tips from as far as New Zealand and from second generations. One reporter has followed this case since Day One.

Rebekah Gould

To all Brooks and Dunn friends and fans from around here, Dr. Larry Gould, the father of murdered Rebekah Gould said their song “Believe” represents his inner peace. He went on because the song helped him. Rebekah was murdered in Arkansas and the case was cold for 16 years even though her on and off again boyfriend was looked at. He did not go to the funeral. He did not look for her. Bloody sheets were in his washing machine. Her car, purse and dog were at his place. She was bludgeoned with a piano leg. She was found a week after being missing in a T-shirt and panties down an embankment. Boyfriend now has a wife and two kids. His cousin was arrested for the murder.

The Vidocq Society was approached for help, but declined. It is a members-only crime-solving club in Philadelphia, Penn. It is named for Eugène François Vidocq, the groundbreaking 19th century French detective who helped police by using the psychology of the criminal to solve cold case homicides. Vidocq was a former criminal himself and used his knowledge of the criminal mind to look at murder from the psychological perspective of the perpetrator. Members are forensic professionals; current and former FBI profilers, homicide investigators, scientists, psychologists, prosecutors and coroners who use their experience to provide new insights for investigations that have gone cold. Membership is capped at 82, one for each year of Vidocq's life. The society was formed in 1990 and solved its first case in 1991, clearing an innocent man of involvement in the murder of Huey Cox in Little Rock. Vidocq will only consider cases that meet certain requirements: they must be unsolved deaths more than two years old, the victims cannot have been involved in criminal activity such as prostitution or drug dealing and the case must be formally presented to them by the appropriate law enforcement agency.

Murderabilia

Seriously, who buys this stuff called murderabilia? No one should rob, rape and murder and make a buck off of it. The Son of Sam case disallowed selling books and rights for movies. eBay said it is not the morality police and apparently allows it. Dealers set up their own sites, too. Facebook allows it except for nude drawings. Crime Con speaker Andy Kahan wrote 20 people in prison and 12 wrote back. He became a buyer of their items, well known, and got first dibs. There is actually a site called Murderauction.com. Kahan did this to help craft notoriety for profit laws to stop this.

Charles Manson and John Wayne Gacy sold shirts they cut up. The Virginia Tech shooter’s calculator was going for $3,700 and a screenplay he wrote was for sale. Prisoners sell hair, nails and autographs. There is a Jeffrey Dahmer blow-up doll. There are serial killer bobble heads and snow globes, action figures and wall clocks. And grave dirt and schoolyard rocks.

Somehow some on Death Row turn into Rembrandts?

Kahan’s desire is to make a dent in the market. He has worked on a Texas law to reduce public access to crime scene pictures.

He is from Houston and works in victim services and advocacy.

Susan Cox

In 2009 Susan Cox’s husband Josh said she vanished when there was two feet of snow outside. It’s still a no body case.

However, fans were drying his couch. She was the only breadwinner and he had life insurance on her that was trying to be collected nine days after she was missing. And the $250,000 taken on a child was unheard of at the time.  The kids drew a picture of their mother in his trunk. Her phone was in the van, but the SIM card gone. He made her and the boys eat from the garden.

Josh had molested his sister and killed her gerbil.

Steve Powell was known as his creepy dad. He had an obsession with Susan and collected her fingernails and had a used tampon. Josh moved in with him six weeks after Susan went missing. Steve attempted suicide and son Michael actually did four months later. Michael once ran for office and Josh was his campaign manager. He killed himself by jumping off of a parking garage. Their brother John ran around in a diaper naked.

There was a noose and gallows in Steve’s house. He had a poster with a sword through a vagina. He had videos of Susan washing her face, brushing her teeth, putting on her hose. Josh knew his father wrote songs about her. Josh had cartoon incest porn. He was given a psychosexual evaluation, which measures arousal. It’s called a plethysmography, new word for me.

One story floating around was Susan ran off with another man who was missing.

When Josh killed himself and his boys, the Powell family tried to bury him by the boys, but Crime Stoppers bought all the plots around the location. This was one of my favorite parts of Crime Con.

Washington found negligence in the death of the boys and the case is in appeals. Susan’s parents said the state prioritized Josh’s parental rights over the safety of the boys. They have also pushed for lawmakers in Washington and Utah to pass bills that would restrict visitation rights for parents being investigated for murder.

There is work on the Charlie Braden Law (the children’s names) so that if a parent is a murder suspect, he can’t have the kids visit in the home.

Libby and Strangulation

Did you know there is a Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention? Yes, and it is trying to reopen the case of Libby Caswell in Room 319 at a hotel in Independence, Mo., in 2017. Police ruled it a suicide when a doctor on a Crime Con panel clearly proves why it is a homicide. He has presented the case to 600 forensic experts who agree. The attorney general, prosecutors, police chief and mayor refuse to take another look and Libby’s mother is asking for letters to be written to the U.S. Attorney General. Dr. Bill Smock proves that tongues would disengage from the grommets in a belt hanging. The victim was in the bathroom and blood clots were outside of the door. Her boyfriend noticed her when he opened the door to the bathroom, called 911 and fled. There is a shoe imprint on her back and two fingernails were missing. Her hands were bagged, but no tests were run at the scene. The autopsy revealed dried fluid on her breast, but no evidence was taken at the scene.  Another male had also been in the room and a sex worker next door heard a woman scream no. Dr. Smock said the scene was staged.

If a man chokes a woman once in an intimate relationship, the likelihood of him eventually killing is 800 percent. The institute educates police, prosecutors, medical personnel and victim advocates about the hidden dangers of strangulation. One clue in strangulation is hemorrhage in the eyes much like small bleeds occurring inside the brain.

Apparently, Independence needs some lessons from the institute. Very sad situation.

The speaker mentioned there are seven mistakes in suicide investigations and I found them:

Assuming the Case is A Suicide Based on the Initial Report

Assuming “The Suicide Position” At the Crime Scene

Not Handling “The Suicide” as a Homicide Investigation  

Failure to Conduct Victimology

Failure to Apply the Three Basic Investigative Considerations To Establish if the Death is Suicidal in Nature

1.  The presence of the weapon or means of death at the scene.

2.   Injuries or wounds that are obviously self-inflicted, or could have been inflicted by the deceased.

3.  The existence of a motive or intent on the part of the victim to take his own life.

Failure to Properly Document any Suicide Notes

Failure to Take Each Factor to its Ultimate Conclusion

Toolbox Killers

The psycho-geographic profiler was rudely cut off so the Crime Con presenter could promote her TV show and a book that will probably have many spelling errors as her PowerPoint did. The Toolbox Killers were sadists who rode around in a van they called Murder Mac with a bed, disabled locks, a toolbox and police scanner. They tortured and killed five women and threw them into the mountains, using icepicks in the ear, pliers and screwdrivers in body parts. They would record the taunts. One who was found was strangled with a coat hanger going down to the size of a quarter. These creeps are Lawrence Bittaker and Roy Norris from California around 1979. They met in prison and when released pretended to scout for models, tapped phones to find out where girls were going and once followed and took a photo of a couple that didn’t turn out well, but they used it for blackmail. They used degrading language and loved seeing the fear of the victims. One had a childhood where he was kept with an upside down crib over him so his mother could go out drinking. He had never been to a birthday party. He didn’t like it when people were “better than him.” He schemed he would kidnap women and then live as aliens. These were not low IQ men. They also began using squirt guns with chemicals in them. One victim was killed on Halloween and passersby thought she was in her costume in an ivy bed in a neighborhood. She was different than the rest. Some got away. But these criminals did not. Glad they were captured.

Pravin Varughese

Not to shame law enforcement, but to get answers about the murder of her son, Lovely Varughese, R.N., shared Pravin’s story and how the first autopsy differed from the second. A judge ended the trial over a comma that he thought would confuse the jury. I’m all for good grammar, but she still has no justice. Her son was a college student in Illinois, found 400 yards from the hotel the family stayed in while he was missing. They were first denied seeing him. The death was ruled hypothermia, but when Lovely finally got to view him, she noticed bruises on his face. His shoes were never found. There was no evidence of frostbite in the family autopsy, but there was blunt force trauma. The first autopsy identified his sex as female and spelled his name wrong. The dude arrested was not at the same party as Pravin. He was looking for cocaine. He sold drugs from jail after being arrested. No new trial date has been set.

Gil Carillo

One reason to go to the dentist is teeth (and feet) can be main identifiers of criminals. Gil Carillo, Los Angeles detective, said Richard Ramirez was the most vile criminal in his career. The serial killer’s teeth were identified as bad by victims who survived. He had a size 11.5 shoe. Very early on, police noticed Avia Aerobic shoeprints at the murder scenes (including one on the face of a victim). It was a relatively uncommon shoe: there’d only been six pairs of the Avia Aerobic shoe sold in Los Angeles, and only one in size 11.5.

Mayor Dianne Feinstein gave a speech to reassure citizens that police were on the trail of the killer. She mentioned the unique shoe print. Ramirez, after hearing her speech, threw the shoes over the Golden Gate Bridge. His teeth, however, could not be as easily disposed.

Before Ramirez was arrested he was pulled over for running a red light in a stolen vehicle. He fled. Searching the car for clues, the officer found a wallet with a dentist appointment card. Police attempted to stake out the dentist’s office, but Ramirez never showed. The dentist felt he would be back because his teeth were in awful condition. The dentist still proved useful. During his trial, Ramirez’s defense team called his father—Julian Ramirez—to the stand. Julian claimed his son had been with the family in El Paso on May 29 and 30, the days he raped and killed Florence Lang (81) and brutally raped Mabel Bell (83) and Carol Kyle (42). But Dr. Leung’s records showed that Ramirez had been getting dental work done in Los Angeles on May 30, not in El Paso.

Gina DeJesus

Gina DeJesus, who was missing in 2004 for 9.5 years in Cleveland, spoke about the Cleveland Family Center for Missing Children and Adults. The organization “begs” for food and paper for missing posters. It is located 300 feet away from the house in which she was held against her will. The center doesn’t care the age of the missing or how they are missing. One biological mother kidnapped her child. They know there will be some unhappy endings. Family members of missing people can’t sleep, work or take care of other kids. They prep the families for media questions and tell the media what they prefer to be off limits. Once escaped, DeJesus learned to drive in a cemetery with a neighbor because that is a place you can’t hurt anyone. Once the three girls gained their freedom, they went their own ways but do remain friends. As if her first ordeal wasn’t bad enough, she was carjacked at gunpoint in May. Apparently unrelated. When she would see her family on TV during the capture, she told herself if they were going to fight to find her, she was going to fight. That was her main message.

Tiger Girl and the Candy Kid

You have to make them static to cinematic! Tiger Girl and the Candy Kid were never as famous as Bonnie and Clyde, but Glenn Stout told of how he wrote their story. Interesting to a journalist like me. He just happened upon them while doing some research for a book and stumbled across a headline with the nicknames of the criminals. This was 1925-26 and there were no reels, but he dug through newspaper and library archives to form their story. He went through thousands of stories. There were no police records, trial transcripts or living witnesses to be found. Stout said crimes are stories with whys and hows. They operated in New York, but she was once in a Miss Baltimore contest. He used birth and death certificates, obituaries and genealogy since his brother was good at that. He said historical societies are a great help. He drove by buildings mentioned in the research and found one that he could describe in his book as having letters two stories tall. Candy Kid was given the name because he was a sweet talker. Their real names were Margaret and Richard Whittemore. He was a thug; she was a flapper. They were major jewelry thieves and killers. Stout said the FBI asked for money from Congress after Bonnie and Clyde. The case helped put the FBI needs on the map.

Serial Killers

John White, a former police officer and now psychologist, said he can’t understand how serial killers treat people the way they do, but much of it dates back to childhood. He has spoken before and I remember his line: How many of you are wearing something from your husband? Were you with him when he bought it? See the receipt! There could be a speck of blood on the necklace. Forty-seven percent of serial killers take trophies. Twelve percent take hair or body parts. Sixteen percent of serial killers want a sex slave. Pins in nipples is a fetish.

Some he has dealt with were preparing the victim for Thanksgiving dinner. Richard Chase thought his blood was turning to powder so drank others’ blood. Juan Carona accidentally left a receipt in a grave. Sean Vincent Gillis had crurophilia. Leg fetish. He had a girlfriend and he would bring victims home. His tire tracks were so unique, there were only two others in Baton Rouge. Joseph Kallinger thought there was a devil in his penis. He ironed his daughter’s thighs to they would bubble up if she ever had sex. Ricky Lee Green’s dad had him eat throwup. Larry Gene Bell had someone write a good bye note.

Some just have to talk, some are turned in by a partner (4 percent), some get apprehended at a traffic stop (4 percent) and some confess (5 percent). The top three ways they are caught are: Linked to victims, 29 percent; turned in by someone, 15 percent; victim escaped, 10 percent.

Paul Chalmers

Phil Chalmers, counter homicide trainer and criminal profiler, has interviewed hundreds of teen killers, school shooters, mass murderers and serial killers. He has been studying killers for 35 years, with the goal of profiling these individuals and identifying the causes, warning signs and triggers. He said he was led to it because he was raised in poverty and destruction himself. Signs of possible future murders by a juvenile are hurting animals, setting fires, bed wetting and drugs. Having a negative father figure creates problems as does being dumped or not being allowed to date someone of their choice. So does being bullied and video games. Some may want to seek fame. He mentioned Nathan Brooks, who killed his father by decapitating him and putting the head in a punch bowl and killing his mother, wanting to crucify her. He was an altar boy and a devil worshiper. Chalmers said their first kill is the hardest, then they get overconfident and sloppy. He said it is hard to catch a killer who may be a truck driver who picks someone up in Arkansas, dumps the body in Nebraska and the clothes in Idaho.

Hostages

Dr. Kris Mohandie began in the Los Angeles Police Department. He switched to sieges and crisis because of being a sensation seeker. Most hostage takers are spontaneous, not deliberate. They can be depressed or suicidal, have a personality disorder, be a substance abuser or an extremist. One technique the police employ is stalling. They hope the person gets hungry or sleepy. Most are resolved in nine hours, many in four. Suicide building jump threateners do it as a low-tech method that is dramatic. He worked the O.J. Simpson case and noticed statues on the lawn and many photos inside the house. This indicated Simpson was narcissistic. (The photos were taken down when the jury toured the scene). They were trying to lure Simpson inside the house and out of the car. Not the usual strategy; it is usually vice versa. Guns were drawn on Simpson at all times. He did not so much care what would happen to his kids or that the woman he once or maybe still loved was dead. He was worried about people not liking him. The things he requested were to talk to his mother who was in the hospital, to use the bathroom and to have something to drink. One of the cops rattled around the refrigerator to find orange juice to give to the Juice. A little police humor.

He said perpetrators of animal abuse were 3.2 times as likely to have a criminal record and 5.3 times more likely to have at least one record of violent crime. 48 percent of convicted rapists and 30 percent of child molesters had a history of animal cruelty. 85 percent of women who sought a shelter for domestic violence reported incidents of pet abuse.

Crime Show Music

Dan Brown Jr. was a “guest of the state” in Madison County at 13. He composes crime show music. He has used police chatter sourced from Chicago. His grandpa is in the Bluegrass Hall of Fame and his dad was a bass player in a rock band.

If the show is set in the 1990s, he said crime was different.

The sub genres are crime scenes, forensic science, cybercrime, percussive pursuits, somber cello,  detective, eerie vibes, killers, sorrowful piano and reservations.

He played his creations and one was called In the Well (looking up). Some sounded like you can see the magnifying glass or hear glass breaking.

Another was described as metallic, dark, general tension. He used the word so “crimey.”

He created the Twizzler’s Cold Case music. You can Google this.

Something about infamy is interesting to me, Brown said.

He is working on Caribbean, criminal Christmas and cartoon crime that someone asked about.

The Safety Trap

Spencer Coursen, a threat management expert, said that coming out of COVID, people are re-emerging, creating some powder kegs. They are on edge. Uneasy. Awareness and preparation equal safety. You have to be more willing to defend rather than be unwilling to offend. Outcome is not about chance. Don’t shirk responsibility when a threat is presented, say to a principal, who later had to deal with the student who reported suspicion and later escaped being kidnapped. Tools are great, but your mindset is better. Run, hide, then fight. When traveling, a restaurant is a great safe haven. They probably have a first aid kit, restroom and water.

Polygraph

Lisa Ribacoff, a polygraph examiner, said 28 states allow them as do all federal venues. The first liar was Adam. The brain works harder to lie. She is not a fan of voice analysis, but eye detection can be successful with polygraphs. Polygraphs can be used in criminal cases and infidelity. Rules are to be rested six to eight hours, no illegal drugs for a week, no alcohol for 48 hours, be older than 13 and have an IQ over 55 to be sure you understand what she is asking. Caffeine is fine. A maximum of four yes and no questions are asked. Polygraphs are not 100 percent accurate. Micro expressions are important, saying yes with your head but no verbally probably means yes.

Dr. Phil McGraw

All human behavior is on a continuum. From Pollyanna on. This is how Dr. Phil McGraw began his Crime Con session.

Do you know when you are in the presence of evil? They don’t all look like Freddy Krueger, he said.

Was President Harry Truman evil? McGraw says hero. He said Truman saved lives ultimately.

Evil can be mental and emotional abuse, manipulation, molestation, murder, cruelty, torture, rape, killing and home invasion.

McGraw said back in the day man against the lions was entertainment.

How do you spot evil? In this Dark Triad: narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism.

Here were some examples of evil he shared.

Gypsy Rose Blanchard’s mother DeeDee conspired with her boyfriend to stab her. He later said it was meant to be a warning that got out of control. “That’s an understatement,” McGraw said. Her mother actually posted that bitch is dead. Gypsy had no teeth and was on a feeding tube. They Fed Ex’ed the knife to his house.

Gigi Jordan had an autistic son. She gave him Xanax and Ambien and hugged him while he asked do you think God will forgive you? She survived the double “suicide” attempt, but knew how much to give him. Jordan was in Rikers, but is now free because of a technical glitch in the trial.

Another evil: One fiancé of Steven Avery ate two boxes of rat poison to go to the hospital to get away from him. He also burned a cat and ran her cousin off the road.

Lastly, seven people were arrested after mummified remains of a dangerous cult leader (“Mother God”) was found wrapped in Christmas lights. Followers of the Love Has Won group were staying at the house.

You can’t see these evil people because you don’t have that in yourself, McGraw said.

In 80 percent of mass shootings, one person knows it is going to happen. In 65 percent, two know. But nobody does anything about it. Sometimes that person is the FBI, McGraw said.

He quoted Edmund Burke’s “the only good thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”

Don’t name your son Damien is how he ended the presentation.

RatSnakes

Rat Snakes is a name for undercover agents in Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms, said Vincent Cefalu, author of a book with the same name. He said they are not in it for fame because you are anonymous, he never had a “wig man,” the money is laughable, you can’t have a stable family and the environment is trailer parks and shoddy motels. You have to make sure you are sanitized going out--no government pens on you and no wedding ring finger tan if you are not supposed to be married. You have to know the exits and who has arms. Snakes ate rodents and that’s how the name came about. The agents cheat death by living a lie, he said. You can't be part-time undercover.

Pulse Killing

Two victimology panelists offered red flags on Omar Mateen, the Pulse Nightclub killer who murdered 49 and injured 53. The fifth anniversary was June 12, also being the date Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman were murdered.

Mateen had a fascination with guns and was disturbing and abusive in elementary school. There are 31 detention documents. At 8, he was making sexual comments.

He studied forensic science. One professor had dinner with the family at Christmas and received a thank you note for teaching Mateen. Mateen once handed him in a manifesto of eight pages of people who wronged him. The red flag is that he was treated “less than,” Pierre Pacheco said. He said over the phone to him that he knew how to handle things when things don’t go his way.

Mateen was on the radar of the sheriff and Homeland Security. When working at a courthouse, he would always mention he was related to whomever committed a terrorist act. He called Osama bin Laden his uncle.

Cycle of Torture/Dagger in Back Every Day

In a Brian Laundrie poll, 51 percent said someone is hiding him, 31 percent said suicide, and tied at 9 percent were in the reserve or in Mexico or Canada. The case is an FBI case, not Wyoming’s, because it was in a national park. It was pointed out that if there is a trial, most federal ones do not allow cameras in the courtroom. Someone else asked a good question as to why some cases get more media coverage than others. It was said that the more information that is put out, the better chance the media will use it. Plus, this went across multiple states. In other words, speak up, people.

Maura Murray’s whereabouts have been unknown since a 2004 car crash in New Hampshire. Some bones have recently been found near the site and are being analyzed. Retired U.S. marshal Art Roderick, said there are five causes of death: natural, accident, suicide, homicide and undetermined. There is news about Faith Hedgepeth, where an arrest has now been made, since her murder with a blunt instrument in 2012 at Chapel Hill. The police were not shy in asking for DNA and now have a match. Semen was part of the evidence. The arrested dude was said to be a pizza deliverer, but there is likely more to it than that. Connie Dabate’s 2015 murder was briefly mentioned. The trial has again been delayed. This is the Fitbit murder case. Her husband was arrested. The Fitbit was shown to have movement an hour after he said intruders killed her.